Loving yourself is one of the best things you can do for yourself and your life. After all, if you don't like yourself, how can you expect anyone else to love you? Loving yourself is about making kind and compassionate choices for yourself. The kind of choices that make you feel strong, confident, and truly inspired to live the life you want to live. When we don't love ourselves, it's usually because we believe one of these myths about ourselves:
1. People Who Love Themselves Are Self Centered
Self centered people are too involved in their own issues without even considering other’s life, whereas self-love is appreciating one’s own as well as others’ viewpoints and opinions.
People who love themselves are mostly in a very joyful and serene state of mind, so they are wide open to helping, listening, and supporting others.
Unlike self-centered people, they don’t seek approval from others because they have their own approval of being perfect “as they are”.
2. Self Love Is Selfishness
Loving oneself and giving the first priority to one’s own happiness is not selfish. How can a person who is not in a joyful mood make any other person happy?
Taking action without considering others’ feelings is what selfishness is, but making a decision to do something that gives a person joy is not selfish it is the quality of self-love, there is a fine line between these two which could only be understood by keeping a broader perspective.
3. Self-Love Is All About Appearances
People who love themselves surely do care about their looks, but they don’t do it to get the attention of others instead they do it because they honor their physical appearance.
One cannot develop self-love by focusing too much on their physical appearance and by getting a lot of attention from others because of their looks.
No matter what your looks are in the eyes of others, once you develop a love for yourself, you will automatically stand in front of the mirror to let the world know what you are inside, and your looks will start reflecting your love for yourself.
4. Those who love themselves have weak relationships with others
Sometimes, loving oneself does not mean running away from people who are negative; instead, it is about focusing on what is positive in every situation.
Self-loving people do not expect others to make them happy, they are naturally happy and they love others unconditionally.
Loving oneself does not mean running away from people who are negative; instead, it is about focusing on what is positive in every situation.
Self-love is about choosing what is good for you and admiring the fact that others have their own free will.
When you develop self-love, all your relationships start to improve and get stronger. If there are people in your life who are dissatisfied and unhappy then it is about them and not you, so, they may get away from you until they find their own source of happiness.
5. Self-care is unrelated to self-love
Can we not give the folks who believe in this any more attention? The journey of self-exploration is multi-layered, and you simply cannot go through one self-love act without self-care. Sharing the word “self” is enough reason to believe that self-care and self-love are linked.
I like to think of self-love as the sister to the other, and you cannot meet your basic necessities like drinking water without having some sense of self-care in place.
That's all, I hope you found this blog super helpful. Always remember that "self-love is not selfish". I hope you have a great evening/day.